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Thursday, June 10, 2010

New Philosophy

I feel like I complain too much in my posts. Often times after writing I sort of cringe each time I go back and read your comments. Not because anyone says anything less than wonderful, but because I don't want you to think of me as a big complainer.

The funny thing is that in real life, I seldom complain. My best friends rarely hear about my woes. It falls under my "shit or get off the pot" philosophy that I described the other day. I don't want to be one of "those people" who complains all the time, but never does anything to fix the situation. So I don't complain.

The problem is that all that crap builds up and eventually it explodes out in anger. Which is not to say that I have a violent temper or anything like that, but I have been known to yell from time to time. I work really hard not to say anything I'll regret and I'm usually successful. This is a skill that I've had to work on because as a younger woman, I would say every hurtful, angry thing that floated through my brain in my fit of rage.

The problem with my current method of not complaining/eventually getting so pissed off I freak out is that people freaking out are usually not seen as being all that effective communicators. The most reasonable argument, when screamed at the top of one's lungs and peppered with expletives, seldom comes off as anything but a crazy lady screaming as loud as she can. Even when that crazy lady is 100% correct.

So I'm thinking there must be a more moderate approach. This falls under my new "all things in moderation" philosophy which applies to food as well as complaints and anger. Which is where you come in. Even though I am not really comfortable with it, I am going to continue complaining a bit in my posts. Hopefully not all the time, but sometimes. Feel free to "un-follow" me if you can't handle it!

On the band front, I am feeling better today. I am starting to think my band reads my blog because whenever I complain about it in the blog, it always immediately straightens up and flies right. I ordered my usual Wednesday lunch from Café Yumm! (a small "original" bowl of black beans and brown jasmine rice with salsa, Yumm! sauce, avocados, cilantro and sour cream). I ate it really, really slowly and put the lid on and set it aside a couple of times when I thought I might be getting full. It took a few hours, but I finished it without issue and later had broccoli and cheese quiche for dinner with a piece of watermelon. I'm still tight - my coffee barely gurgled down this morning, but restriction is good, right?

12 comments:

Barbara said...

yes restriction is good.. and feel free to bitch, complain and yell. it is good for the soul and better than dying for high BP and stroke. Don't worry, all of our complianing serves as a sanity check to me.. I complain alot to.. but I think that is because I expect from people what I give in terms of effort (and more like a do your part rant and we will be fine).. so go ahead complain.. I will still follow you..

DB said...

This is our forum - a place to both vent & celebrate among friends. I love your blog and your topics - don't change a thing :)

Stephanie said...

Bitch away, honey! Have you read my recent blogs? LOL It's good to hear other people vent because then you know you're not alone in the world of frustration!! :)

Band-Babe said...

My husband used to call me "Mount Saint Lara" because I would hold everything in until I exploded. He says in the past few months I have complained more than the rest of the eight years we've known each other. I'm a big believer in "shit or get off the pot", too- I use that phrase all the time! But, it appears complaining is better than holding it in. And, complaining on your blog is probably a very moderate and reasonable way to get things out. Blogging is therapeutic! Complain away! I'll keep reading.

Jacquie said...

I think its still too early to tell how my restriction is. I had liquids yesterday and today I had 1/2 cup of chicken salad for a very late lunch and than a spoonful of it a few minutes ago as I was starting to get hungry but we are going out to dinner. I am on mushies for the rest of today so I will have chili for dinner.

How much do you have in your band now with your unfill. I am up to 2.6 in a 4 cc band. D

amandakiska said...

Jacquie, I have 2.3 cc, down from 2.7. Everyone, you are AMAZING!

Girl Bandit said...

I am a bit like you and boottle it up...we all need to complain and I certainly do not think of you as a winger...glad the band is reading your blog...how can I make mine read mine???

THE DASH! said...

Oh I just had a big complain on my last post and it wasnt even about the darn band lol. Dont worry, we all do it!

carla said...

I think tha thaving a blog allows us to open up more and "complain" more. I think because we are just typing our feelings and its not like we have someone there rolling their eyes or us feelign bad that we are always bitchign to them...dont worry about it we are hear to listen

Dirttrackdiva said...

no worries about being unfollowed here. as far as the complaining goes......if people don't want to "hear" it, they have the rest of the world wide web to explore. let them google and stop invading your space. lol at least that's how i look at it.
feel free to vent, we're all friends here and that's what friends do.

stardustic said...

You can complain and vent as much as you need! Sometimes it is good to have that outlet and we are here to support you! No worries!

Cindylew said...

Don't ever feel bad about bitching to us...that's what we're here for...to listen to each other's trials, tribulations, and celebrations. We just can't all do it on the same day or our heads would explode.