Friday, April 23, 2010
A little backbone?
I am doing some soul-searching these days about my role in some situations in which I feel taken advantage of. I've blogged about some of these things before, but mainly I have this situation at my job where my co-worker (who is also a good friend) has been taking lots of time off and showing up to work late on a daily basis - late by several hours. This has been going on for a couple of years. The end result is that she does a few things and I do a thousand things. She makes the same money as I do.
I have other past and current relationships with similar dynamics. In the past I've blamed the person taking advantage and felt resentful, but what I want to figure out is what I am doing and putting out there to make it okay for people to treat me this way.
I honestly have no idea whatsoever what to change, but I know I have to establish clearer boundries and learn to stand up for myself. I wanted to ask all of you guys if you have any experience in this sort of situation and, if so, what have you done?