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Wednesday, April 7, 2010


Don’t freak out, but I think someone is watching us!

So apparently there is a person in my life who is reading my blog and pulling out details with which she is using to make it appear that she and I are…connected somehow for a lack of a better word to describe it. Now I realize that a blog is a public forum and that I shouldn’t be surprised if someone I know in “real life” is reading it. The fact is that I don’t say anything here that is truly private. But it still bothers me that someone would use my information in this way.

I look at this blog as a support group of sorts. This lap band is a whole new life for me and having access to so many others who have been there or are hoping to be there (or are sharing some of the same experiences in a different way) is invaluable. I realize that I don’t always process things the way “normal” people do. I got into this situation by stuffing my feelings and I need to bounce ideas and thoughts off a bunch of people to make sure I am heading in the right direction. I want to be successful and I think that having this forum available to me is an important part of my progress. But if I have to sensor myself and wonder how the things I write might be twisted and used to hurt people I care about, I’m not sure I can continue blogging.

So I guess I want to use this post to ask this person to knock it off. It is creepy to lurk into my life and exploit my struggles for your own means. If you want access to my life and my family’s life, you have already been told how to make that happen. If you want to read my blog, be my guest. It is public after all, but don’t use the information that you find here to attempt to insinuate that we are best buds who share our trials and tribulations with one another. Because we are not.

I am not impressed by lies and manipulations. I don’t play those games. I believe real, healthy relationships are based on trust. I trust that my “followers” read my blog and support my efforts. They are like my own little cheerleading section and I need them. So please don’t ruin it for me, okay?

21 comments:

LDswims said...

Eeks, that's freaky. I hope this stops for you and that everything settles back to normal. How scary is that!?!

Stephanie said...

So you have some psycho "single-white female" type following you? I am so sorry to hear that! Hopefully things will get better soon and this chick will stop bothering you. :)

If she doesn't, you can always call her out publicly, but that's just the bitchy side of me talking! :) She shouldn't be able to ruin such a great form of support for you!

Sandy Lee said...

Freaky. I hope it doesn't stop you from blogging.

If you know who she is-publish her coordinates and we will bombard her with "back off" messages ;-)

This is the support group you need and I hope you can feel free to be yourself.

Mary said...

wow thats freaky!

tessierose said...

Well I sure hope this last post nips it in the bud. Your posts are both thought filled and thought provoking, I would hate to see all of us miss out on your perspective, because of that person's indiscretion! Good luck.

Amy said...

That sucks!

Worst case scenario, make your blog private, which only allows followers to read it (I think).

Drazil said...

I think you can blog specific readers too....I think. We'd miss you!

-Grace- said...

You tell her, Amanda! That is just creepyyyy. I can't stand creepers. :-/

Band Groupie said...

Don't leave Amanda!

To creepy person...this blog is copywrited and you may not use or abuse any portion of it! If you want to be a friend you need to act like one.

Lonicera said...

Please don't stop blogging Amanda! I've seen this work successfully before, if you "out" this person and we all back you up. If they have a blog it's much easier. This blogging is such good therapy for all of us. Tell us how we can help you.
Caroline

Bonnie said...

Does this person know you have 76 people that have your back?

Jenny said...

WOW, some people. They just never grow up.

Stephanie said...

if you need to resort to blocking her from reading or accessing your blog, I can tell you how to do it. You can block an individual follower while still keeping your blog public. Just shoot me an email at sjoy@fit.edu if you need assistance :)

workinprogress said...

That's just horrible, I hope this post makes her think.

Linda said...

I hope you got your point across - we would miss you.

Drazil said...

Oh crap - just reread my comment - I meant block - not blog...oops.

amandakiska said...

I am overwelmed by all your comments. You guys are awesome. I don't know how to block her from viewing it. Stephanie can you email me instructions? amandakiska@yahoo.com . I just have her email address. She doesn't have a blog that I know of. Thanks!

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Butterfly said...

Oh, you poor thing! I hope the madness stops with this post.. some people are so strange. Also, it's a good reminder for all of us that you never know who is watching...

MandaPanda said...

I'm so sorry you're having this problem. Sounds like you know the person who's doing it personally and that makes it even creepier! Please don't stop blogging...give me her whereabouts...tonight she sleeps with the fishes...

BanderificBeauty said...

NOOOO!!! You cant stop blogging!!!!!!! *big hugs* Please who ever you are quit doing what your doing because we need her as much as she needs us!