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Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Is it wrong to post a picture so you guys will give me a bunch of compliments?

I posted some pix yesterday from our weekend family reunion in which I was wearing a swimsuit.  I think maybe I post pictures like that from time to time so I'll hear a bunch of compliments.  Is that wrong?

I swear I'm not completely narcissistic!  It's just that I really have never liked the way I look all that much.  Even before I was fat, I was insecure about my appearance.  I thought I looked good at times, but generally I worried about my looks way too much.  Now I have the confidence and wisdom that comes from maturity, I guess.  I know I have many, many flaws, but I am happy with my looks overall.  Sure, I could pick myself apart.  I could talk about my saggy ta tas or my extra skin, but I chose not to focus on those things.

So why do I post pictures in hopes of getting a bunch of compliments?  Maybe I still am kind of insecure.  Maybe I just like hearing that other people think I look good.  Anyway, THANK YOU for all the validation.  I'm working on my insecurities, I swear!  Maybe someday I won't need/want you all to tell me how foxy I look.  

12 comments:

Cat said...

I don't think you are any different in that way than the rest of us Amanda. We all want a bit of validation from our peers from time to time! You have worked VERY hard to get where you are now. You deserve to hear how great you look and we are all MORE than willing to let you know. You are an inspiration for many of us and it's so awesome to know that with work and some time we too can look as foxy as you! I love the pictures and have no problem telling you how HAWT you are! *grin*

Linda said...

Not at all! I think we all have such warped body images that we need people to say "YES- you do look great" just so you know its not your imagination. You do look great in those pictures.

~Lisa~ said...

You looked fabulous in those pictures - own it, Lady! Besides, who doesn't love being complimented and recognized for their hard work.. Sometimes we ALL need a push to rid ourselves of ever nagging body issues. I believe losing body issues is harder than losing the actual weight!

Amanda said...

You DID look fabulous in those pictures! I find that sometimes I need a lift for you ladies. I really NEED the compliments to help me to see I am on the right track, or I am doing something right. I never see it...well rarely!

MandaPanda said...

I think it's especially important to get the positive reinforcement after we've stretched our bodies to the max. I mean...I'm only speaking for myself here but I had been so unhappy about the way I looked at my highest weight that I need the compliments to keep me in check about my progress. And also, I love seeing pictures in blogs! Makes me feel like I know you better

Pamela E. Williams said...

I just peeped the pics and I'm so jealous. You look fantastic and there is not a thing wrong with wanting compliments. I think on this journey we all have to get used to not seeing ourselves the way we used to look. Everytime you post on my blog I have to go back to your page and see what you did because you lost the weight without compromising what you wanted to eat.

Robyn's Nest said...

Amanda- We all need the encouragement. You look great and you worked hard to get there. Keep giving us pictures.

Ronnie said...

I think we all do that! You do look great, and you should be told all the time!

Beth Ann said...

We definitely all do that! Post away and we will be right here to tell you how awesome you look. You have worked HARD and you DESERVE compliments!

Lyla said...

It's ok to want compliments! You're gorgeous and you've succeeded so well that it's so uplifting to see you in pictures for the rest of us. You've always been an inspiration to me.

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