The other day I picked my fella up from a local micro-brewery (Why yes, we do live in Oregon where there is pretty much a micro-brewery on every corner.). This is his DREAM JOB and he is hoping they will hire him even though he just got another job somewhere else. He goes in every two weeks or so when they bottle the beer to help out. They pay him in beer - lol.
Most people who work at micro-breweries are men in their late 20's - early 40's or so. They are typically hipster-types who spend their weekends snowboarding. So I pulled up and parked in the parking lot. I got out of the car and walked over to where Matthew (my fella) and the brewmaster were standing. "Hey beautiful!", Matthew says upon seeing me. I go over and they pour me a beer. We drink and chat for a bit and then we leave.
I imagine how this scenario would have been a year ago. I weighed 280 lbs. (127 kg.) then. I would have felt really uncomfortable walking up to a strange man, especially one so "cool". I would have imagined that Matthew was ashamed that such a big woman was his partner. I don't imagine him saying, "Hi beautiful!" as a greeting, but if he had, I would have thought the other man would be secretly laughing at the idea of me as beautiful.
I asked Matthew after the fact if he felt good seeing me so much thinner walking up in moments like that. He replied that he always thought I was sexy, even when I was big.
I told him that was a good answer.