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Wednesday, December 19, 2018

2018 Update

I thought that I would pop over to my blog today, probably because I am getting ready to go on vacation for the rest of the year and I don't feel much like working.  I found an update that I had started in 2017, but never finished or published.  I went ahead and published it just now (although I didn't complete it).

2018 has been an amazing year!  I wrote in the 2017 update that my long-time BF and I had finally split up.  I dated two guys last year.  Both relationships ran their course.  This year I decided to try on-line dating and I went out with four different guys.  One I saw three times, one just once, another I saw for about a month and a half, and the last one (the handsome fella above) just asked me to marry him.  (Spoiler: I said yes).

His name is Rick and we have been dating about ten months.  He is amazing!  He is so kind and generous.  He is great with my kids.  Like me, he is self-employed.  To say that I am in love with him feels like an understatement.  I miss him intensely when we're not together.  I adore him.  He's fantastic in bed and so much fun.  We laugh and laugh when we're together.  In my 45-years, I have never been in love like this.

What's funny is that I really was just looking for someone to be my boyfriend.  I wanted to go on dates and have a good time.  I never expected to fall so hard for someone, not at my age.

Here are some examples of the amazing things he does: For me birthday, he left little gifts at my house for four days leading up to my birthday.  Each one had a note in which he talked about a specific thing that he likes about me.  He's also done special things for my kids, and even took them out to dinner to ask them if they would be okay with him being their step-dad.    

On Sunday he'd planned to take me out to dinner.  He works a lot of nights and weekends and lately we haven't been able to see each other all that much.  We went to one of my favorite restaurants, a fondue place.  After a lovely meal and a lively conversation about why Buck Rogers was stupid, he told me that he had an early Christmas gift for me.  He pulled out this little book (you may have seen it on Facebook).  It is a personalized book of all the things that he loves about me, with cute little cartoon avatars.  The book had page after page of all the things he loves about me and ends with, "I guess what I am trying to say is will you marry me?".  I looked up from the book and he is holding out an incredible white gold ring with diamonds and sapphires (my favorite stone).  It is beautiful! 
We are planning to move in together around February 1st and be married in Spring 2020.

When I think about how happy I am, it makes me shudder to think of the misery that I endured with my ex.  I am so glad that I had the courage to finally end things.

On the weight-front, I am doing very well.  I am actually at my lowest (non-sickness) weight.  I weighed 161 lbs. (73.03 KG) on Monday.  I am 5'8" (172.7 cm) tall.  My BMI is 24.5 (normal).  I am happy with my appearance and feel very comfortable with my size. 

I am exercising like a fiend, just like always and eating around 1,500 calories a day.  I continue to use MFP to track my calories.  It is pretty easy to keep things under control at this point in my recovery (I am almost nine years out from WLS).

So, I think that's it for this update!  Happy holidays!   

2017 Update

2017 has been a year of transition.  So many things have changed for me, things that I had been hoping for for years and years, but couldn't make happen.  Until I could.

The biggest transition has been that my long-term boyfriend and I have split up.  We broke up around Easter and he moved out in early June.  Those two months were really hard.  I spent my free time reading the Harry Potter books for the umpteenth time so I could be distracted from how miserable it was having him in my home.  We were together for the better part of 18 years.  We were married for seven years.  We have two daughters.

A couple of months after he moved out, I started dating a guy I'll call Jay.  Then I started dating another guy I'll call Texas.  I can't remember ever having previously dated more than one guy at a time, but since August I have been seeing two guys.

Both Jay and Texas are very nice. 

(Edit: I just found this in my drafts and thought I would publish it.  It was written October 2017, more than a year ago. I am going to write a 2018 update shortly).